Dating a Single Father Dating a single father. Now that marriage has become almost redundant and unwanted by many it is increasingly normal for people not to be in a relationship yet still have some sort of family or offspring. There are a lot of guys out there who have got a woman pregnant and then had to stay involved or at least be friends with her and in some way either see their baby or help with it’s upbringing. Some of them only provide financial support others get totally wrapped up in it and want to help far more. They would want to take it out,
buy it birthday presents and really look forward to seeing it. The devoted ones revolve their whole lives around their children by trying to make sure they see them as much as is humanly possible, re arranging their working hours or cutting them down so that they see them more, babysitting them every possible opportunity, spending money on them and being a great parent.
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But where does this leave the woman or guy who ends up dating this parent? If they are keen on a family and would love to get involved it could be fantastic, an opportunity to have an instant and ready made family without the horrible bits like giving birth! But if they do not like kids or they are not keen on being involved with other peoples’ it can be a problem. It can also mean that they have little opportunity to get involved with the man if he is always available and spending lots of time with his kids and that makes him too busy to spend time with them. If he provides a lot financially for them and he also does not earn a lot it can mean going without and maybe even asking his new lover to help him provide or go without things!
The father’s ex may get jealous of you and not want you to spend time with their kids. They may see you as an unknown quantity or some sort of risk. Someone who may whisk the necessary other parent away to a foreign land or turn his head so that he loses interest in his family. So they may try to come between you. Or they may be such bad mothers that they want you to take over their role and give you the hard work of looking after their off spring because it saves them the bother.
If you are looking at the idea of marrying the father then you have to think about what sort of life you will have with them in the future. You have to ask yourself about whether or not they would make a good partner to you or if all of their efforts will be spent on those he had before you came along. You should also make sure that he is not getting keen on you just because he finds it hard to cope and wants help or a ready made family simply to please the children.
Will you be able to go out together? Will you have time to yourselves? Will you be able to to have a happy life together just the two of you when you would like to? Will it cramp your style? Will you end up doing lots of chores that you would rather not do or are too busy for such as changing nappies or helping with homework? How old are the offspring? Are any of them very difficult? Are there any teenagers who have problems with reading and writing, drinking, drugs, smoking, problems with authority, skipping school, swearing a lot, running away?
Look to how old they are and how long things would be until they leave home. Do you like the children or do you find that they are a chore and you resent them? Weigh it all up carefully and be totally honest with yourself. If you are only interested in dating the man and not settling down full time then you can maybe avoid a lot of this or if he is only wanting to date and you would rather settle down is he really the right one for you? Why are you interested in him anyway? Is it is fascinating charm and personality or is it because he has a kid? IF it is only that that attracts you then you could find another person who has a child who you like more and get on with better.
Where do you see yourself in five years’ time? Do you think you would be bored with this person and the whole set up then or could you grow into it and be a real part of it? Would you be listened to or would you have to abide by the rules of the house as dictated to by them? Would you just become a baby sitter or would they love you too? Are you a person who likes their own space? If so would you ever get a minute to yourself or would there always be people running around you and wanting your time?
Do not just look at how sexy this person is or how much they make you laugh look at the whole package of what is involved in being a part of their life. Will it enhance your life or just enhance theirs? Will you have to compromise a lot? Is there anything you can say or do to make it more to suit you? You do not have to just go with the flow and let them make all of the decisions.